This post is a response to Krystal Maynard's response to Amy Rosvally's entry. When Amy asked if our superficial society will ever change, Krystal pointed out that not only does our society's standard and emphasis on beauty need to change, but many other things as well, such as gender roles. As a feminist, I have to agree with her. Krystal concludes her post with the question, "Why in a world that is obviously far from ideal are we still holding on to these romanticized ideals?" I believe that the answer to this question can be found in Amy Rosvally's post. Amy points out that we are conditioned to buy into the "fairy tale" lifestyle starting at birth. However politically correct and progressive our society may try to be, we are only slowing ourselves down until we get rid of sexist, counterproductive and corruptive media.
When I tell people that I am a feminist, I am often met with the question, "Why? Women already have equal rights; feminism is no longer necessary". But just because women have gained the right to vote doesn't mean they are treated equally in society. Despite the women's suffrage movement, anti discrimination laws, and sexual harassment laws, women and men are still stereotyped. As Krystal pointed out, certain career fields almost seem designated for one sex or the other. Women teach or care for children and men do math and science. But if society has accepted men and women as equals, then why do we still segregate ourselves in almost every aspect of society? Because people are still striving for that fairy tale life that they were influenced by when they were children. What women never once dreamed of being swept off her feet by Prince Charming, getting married, and raising a family? And what man never once felt it was his responsibility to support the women he loves, along with her children, simply because he is "the man"? These ideas have been ingrained in us literally since birth. Baby girls get a pink blanket, boys get a blue blanket. Girls play with dolls; boys play with trucks. These seemingly harmless traditions lay the foundation for a lifetime of gender conformity.
Krystal makes a great point when she says that a women venturing into a man's job is considered honorable, but a man taking on a women's job is embarrassing. Our society seems to think it's okay for women to do masculine things, but they have a hard time with men doing feminine things. This is because women are still looked down upon. We tend to think that femininity is silly and stupid, and something to be ashamed of. This is deeply disturbing to me, especially when people can claim that feminism is no longer necessary in our society.
No matter how progressive our society gets, we still have very traditional ideas about gender roles. This is because we live in a world that draws a very clear line between what is feminine and what is masculine. Movies, TV shows, and books aimed at children teach them to adhere to specific gender roles if they want to live happily ever after.
Question: Why are typically masculine jobs viewed as more valuable and honorable than typically feminine jobs?